Bar/Bat Mitzvah Planning

Mazel tov as you begin planning your child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvah! This page is designed to help you get started and to be a resource for information you need. Please feel free to email additional resources to add to this page:

A good deal of the information on here is related to the Kiddush luncheon which immediately follows services on Saturday morning. While you may bring in your own kosher caterer, most families choose to use the Sisterhood, our “in-house” catering service. Below, you will find the order form for the Kiddish luncheon.

Finally, there is also a list of resources/vendors that others have used. This is a living document. Please feel free to edit, add and make comments.

Happy planning!

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Parent Handbook

Sisterhood Kiddush Order Forms: Dairy Kiddush or Meat Kiddush

Rental and Room Reservations Forms: Rental Application and Room Reservation

Sample B’nai Mitzvah program (Optional; made by the Mitzvah family)

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

What kind of candy can you offer for throwing after the B’nai Mitzvah?

Candy needs to be kosher, individually-wrapped, and the type that will not make a mess. Candy also needs to be relatively soft so it will not hurt anyone. The synagogue automatically provides Sunkist fruit gems for all B’nai Mitzvah; if this is not what you want, it is the Mitzvah family’s responsibility to procure a kosher alternative. Etz Hayim member Madelyn Rosenberg obsessed over this question so you don’t have to.

Who pays for flowers and how do I order them?

Contact for more information.

How many chairs fit around a table?

You can fit 8 chairs comfortably around the circle tables, 10 chairs maximum.

How much help do I need to ask for/hire for a party at the synagogue?

This depends on how many guests you are having and how many different “activities” you have. For example, you may need someone to serve as a bartender. Additional help for evening parties can be arrange through the office.

Does the synagogue kitchen have wine glasses or coffee cups?

The synagogue does not have coffee cups, but we do have approximately 100 wine glasses.

What are the different room layout possibilities?

You can lay out the room however you can imagine it! Meet with office staff to discuss your plan.

When can I cook in the synagogue?

Cooking typically happens on weekday mornings, and is arranged so as not to interfere with Preschool kitchen usage. Please coordinate with Rabbi Bass to schedule all cooking.

What time does everything have to be at the synagogue?

Assuming it is a regular week and there are no holidays, everything needs to be at the synagogue by 4:00pm on Friday.

If I am having the Sisterhood cater my Kiddush luncheon, do I pay separately to rent the Social Hall?

Use of the Social Hall is automatically included at no extra cost for all sponsored kiddushes after Saturday Shabbat services.